Yesterday I sat down in Costa Rica and simply watched. I observed people walking along, heads held high, shaking hands, moments of laughter, and intentional connections. The bright sun demanding sunglasses and covers, yet the connections deliberate, purposeful, and engaging.
As I sat there with my husband and dog, it felt different. Different than my life in in many communities, where our mode of transportation and our idea of communication pushes us into cars, cabs, and buses. Heads buried in phones and intentions everywhere but where we are standing. I could not help but feel the difference of energy being produced around me by the simple act of deliberate engagement.
As a communications consultant, with clients scattered across the globe, I get asked all the time what holds a person back from getting what they want? For so long, I thought that most people had made a choice. A choice to be solo, quiet, and to intentionally observe the world around them. The more I work with people, I’m starting to confirm that usually this is not the case. Yes, while there are people in this world who intentionally seclude and find joy in this, most are looking for an authentic way to connect and just don’t know how.
So how do you learn? Is there an article or a book that will walk you through this process? Maybe. But what about practice, and if practice is an answer, how do you do it?
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As if you are working your quads at the gym, I ask that you consider your communication efforts the same. Training and practice. Scheduling time to deliberately work and build your social muscle seems to be more important these days for most of us. In many parts of the world, our designs and inventions have created the ease of getting things done without ever connecting with another human being.
What if you created a small space each day to deliberately connect to yourself, another person, or an idea? Perhaps only five minutes a day, yet every day. Before you realize it, your new normal will bring you more than you hoped for and at the very least, the training your social brain needs and deserves.
Some ideas for you that are easy, to begin with, will build neural pathways and put you on your path to confidence in communicating.
- Practice Brain-Based activities by yourself or with another person three to twenty minutes a day. Do this every day for three to four weeks, and you will be increasing your neural pathways.
- Incorporate these five rituals into your life.
- Initiate conversations when standing in line at banks or the grocery store. Here is the science behind this.
- Deliberately finding a person that needs help, and assisting them will build a healthy brain and increase your confidence in communicating.
- Each week, jump into a healthier lifestyle with good food, exercise, and new experiences.
I’m not going to say everyone’s life will be better with deliberate connections, yet I’m confident in saying that most of ours will. I also feel necessary to add; while this speaks to being in the moment and growing the social brain, what about tomorrow and our overall health? Science is confirming daily that increasing your deliberate, social awareness will promote longevity in your overall health and wellness as you age.
Are you looking for a place to practice with groups or by yourself? Reach out to [email protected] and jump into one our living communication workshops or request to connect virtually. Connecting for health, wellness, and confidence within self, teams, ideas and the world at large. I wish you well on your path to building a healthy brain, and I’m here to help. https://christianafrank.com/